Flogging as Foreplay

By Catalina

“Tonight I’m going to lay you over the edge of the bed and I’m going to flog your ass.” 

The words I love to hear from my Husband (and Dom) Marky D. Sade.  We have a nice suede flogger that is perfect for us.  What makes it perfect?  Not only is the suede soft enough to flog for a good while before the build-up of pain that I so deliciously anticipate, but it can also be twisted up in just such a way that it snaps like a whip.  The combination of the two is simply a painslut’s dream.  I like pain, but I like my pain to build up, to want more and more pain, to physically need more and more to feel good.  Flogging is perfect for my flavor of masochism, as it’s largely the anticipation of pain more than the pain itself, in my opinion, that makes me want more. 

While I was thinking about this topic, I asked my friend, Ms. Nikki Nefarious what she thinks about flogging.  She may be the only person I know who is more into impact play than Marky D. Sade.  This is what she had to say about it,

“Flogging can be an intense physical and emotional experience, where trust is paramount for all parties involved. The energy given off during a good flogging is palpable, you can feed off of it, yet it can consume you as well. Personally I won't administer a torment that I haven't already suffered through, so that I get a full respect and understanding of the practice, not just the technique. When flogging someone you must be tuned in to them to anticipate where their head space is, what limits their body and psyche can take. The dangers of flogging aren't just skin-deep, though you can cause severe injuries and wounds. A flogging can conjure a myriad emotions and thoughts from the bottom's own mind. This adds to the experience, yet sometimes it can force unwanted memories or urges to the surface and you must be prepared to handle this with proper after care. For me, deciding on which flogger to use is the last of my concerns when preparing myself for a session, my passion is more intent on the full spectrum of the mind, body, and emotions of my play partner: Do I want to tear him down with the flogging, or do I want the flogging to be a tiny extension of my mental bondage over him and tear him down from the inside out? Another of my favorite uses for flogging is while inducing pleasure, as they reach orgasm, as personally I love to associate pain and pleasure. Just call me well rounded!”

I understand where Nikki is coming from because as a domme I totally tune into the vibe of my submissive, looking continuously for signs of whether to increase or decrease the intensity or end the activity all together.  Sometimes, just a break is necessary, a nice flogging and then leaving your submissive bound and exposed to think about her/his red ass.  But, right now I’m writing as the little painslut that I can be, so let me tell you that flogging from that side, for me, is all about foreplay, the intensity of sensation that puts me in that place where both He and I want to meet. 

- Catalina